2.11.2012

on singleness


I'm not entirely sure how to start this. I don't generally talk about my love life (or lack of one, that is) on such a public forum, partly because I feel I don't have much to say and partly, or should I say mainly, because I'm rather scared and hesitant. 
I'm single. I used to struggle with it, wish I had someone else in my life, but over the course of the past few months, I've made peace with the fact. There's nothing bad about being single.
Still, though, haven't we all wished for a special someone? It's hard at times, I have to confess. And while I'm confident in the fact that my time will come, sometimes I still dream about that one boy and wish my time would come already.
But still, I'm single. And that's okay, because the fact of the matter is, my time just hasn't come yet. It's hard being patient. Waiting. Being content in this stage of my life isn't always easy, but heck, I'm fifteen. I still have time. And I know there will be a time when I look back at this moment, this second, and wish I could relive it. 

Today, I am single and I am content because I know that there is One who has a plan for my life...every aspect of it.

much love,

28 comments:

  1. really lovely Carlotta, and a wonderful reminder to be content with where I'm at and that Somebody much more capable than me has it all planned out in the very best way it can be.

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  2. So true, Carlotta. I have had a bt of this struggle myself. I am a hopless romantic. :) Have you read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye?" I think you would really like it - the author had the same perspective on singleness.

    Hugs,
    ~bree

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  3. I know exactly what you're talking about! I would suggest you grab a notebook, whenever you feel like it, and write down a letter to your future husband. That's just something you can look forward to showing him and laughing over someday. :)


    eve @ essence of eve

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  4. While I was at Summer Camp this past summer, one of the councilers told my group how she keeps a journal/box of notes/writing to give to whomever her future husband might be on their wedding day. That sounds really special to me, so I've decided to not throw away my journals, ever, after I finish the last page of each notebook so that I will be able to give them to my husband.

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  5. I think it's hard for everyone at one point or another, but don't worry, your time will come. The thing is, we're still quite young and I think that now is the time to chase dreams and prepare yourself for your young man-while you're still single. That's not to say you can't chase dreams when you have a boyfriend, but you do have more time when you don't. :)

    Leah

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  6. I loved being single! The freedom of it is actually really amazing and beautiful itself. I'm happily married now, but will always look back on the singleness fondly. I'mnot saying that there weren't times in my single years that were tough because there were! Sometimes you just get lonely. But keep your eyes on Jesus and he will bring the perfect man to into your life when the timing is right. :-) And enjoy this season of your life!

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  7. Beautiful Carlotta! And heck, when you're 17 (like I am) there will still be time. ;)

    One thing I do a lot is pray for my Future Husband. And, if I'm ever crushing on a guy (*ahem*) I pray for him as well.


    --Liz B

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  8. Without a boy friend? - of COURSE! A girl your age should be! I can't stress that enough!

    xoxo

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  9. i've been single all my life, and i feel the exact same way as you. lovely post :))
    -jocee <3

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  10. Amen! I've never had a boyfriend. And I think these years are the time not to have to worry about having/not having one and just live our life because our teenage years go by so quickly. <3

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  11. Yes yes yes. Exactly how I feel! I just keep telling myself that I'm only sixteen - I still have so much time! That last sentence is something I've been thinking about a lot lately!

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  12. This was so encouraging and so true! it's sometimes really hard to wait, but God knows! Thanks so much for writing this post!

    xoxo
    k

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  13. This was so sweet. I too am impatient to be someone's other half. Although, I suppose with all this waiting, I'll cherish and love him even more when he finally comes along =)

    xoxo,
    Jessica @ Diary of a Beautiful Soul

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  14. You summed up this topic pretty darn perfectly. One of my favorite quotes goes something like, "Someone out there is wondering what it would be to meet someone like you."

    Sincerely,
    another fifteen-year-old.

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  15. every girl wants to be loved, and I too often dream of my prince charming. yet, I do find that singleness is a gift too as we can draw closer to Him and trust that He has plans our life. we're only fifteen, and we've got time for "Mr. Right" to come along. ;)
    beautiful post, carlotta!
    Grace
    tending her garden @ Grace's Garden Walk

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  16. Great shot. I have an outfit very similar to that on today. ha

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  17. I've come to realize this too, Carlotta! I've actually never dated anyone in my life and I'm 18. I'm not afraid to admit that anymore because I'm happy to say I haven't given in and given my heart to someone who really doesn't care. Ya know?

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  18. Very good thoughts, Carlotta. :-) I'm nearly eighteen and have never dated anyone. I'm glad you are waiting for that special someone. For now, you don't even have to think of yourself as "single," just think of yourself as fifteen. ;-) When I was fifteen, I never said "Oh, I'm single." I was just too young to have a relationship with someone. So it was okay.
    It's a little harder for me now, because I know I COULD have a relationship with someone, but I have to wait for the right one.
    Savor being fifteen, sweet girl, it's so fun!

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  19. so true <3 sometimes it's hard..but I know it'll come :)

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  20. I know exactly how you feel, Carlotta. I'm 19 and still haven't dated anyone. There are times when I let it get me down, but then I remember that God's plan is perfect and he'll bring the right guy into my life at the right time, as he'll do for you, too. At 15 I wanted a boyfriend but I didn't feel pressured to have one. In fact, these days, I tell people that I'm glad that I didn't date during high school because everyone in my class went to colleges all over the world and it would have been really hard to maintain a long distance relationship. I'm sure you'll find someone! Although it doesn't always feel that way when you're stuck in the middle, it's definitely worth the wait. :)

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  21. Completely agree. Completely. Props on accepting and being comfortable with that- it's really not so bad. (:

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  22. i just don't want to cheat on any of the fictional characters i am mentally dating

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  23. That's good. Just remember that nothing good can come out of a relationship if you have to force it. Just be happy and live your life and I promise it will happen for you when the time is right.

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  24. In case you haven't already figured this out: you're amazing. The end. This article was so comforting. I love that there is a beautiful and unique plan set out for each and every one of us. So reassuring.
    xo

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  25. to every girl who is in this sacred season of singleness: relish every day, and live like the Lord wants you to.

    thanks for your honesty carlotta.

    perhaps you'll find more inspiration on the art of sacred singleness at my blog:
    www.profilesofapapergirl.blogspot.com

    have a good one,
    sarah

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